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Dear childhood me – life’s little lessons – #BehindTheBlogger


Dear Childhood Me,

Spoiler alert – life doesn’t go as you expect, but don’t worry, it turns out pretty good!

Firstly – 30 obviously sounded far enough away for you to think you should have all your “life stuff” figured out and that you’d be ready to start your family. You’re kind of right. You want the husband, house and career all sorted by 30 years old. Good news – this happened! You wanted to be pregnant and have your first baby before 30’s sun set for the last time. This hasn’t worked out so well. As it currently stands, we’re 4 months away from turning 31, and we’re just about keeping a house, two cats, a husband and me alive. Probably the less said about the plants that have been sacrificed throughout the process the better! Mother-in-law has requested a pink grandchild, but you’re not quite ready yet. Anyway, about that career…


You suck at science all through school, but actually do quite well on the science-y parts in your degree. Perhaps unsurprisingly, you didn’t get in to university to study forensic anything. Nope. Nor did you get in to read law. That ruled out a career in pathology or becoming a solicitor. Instead, psychology was your degree and you end up by some random happenstance to work in HR (I know you don’t know what that is yet), and do you know what? After a couple of rocky years, you love it. Also, you didn’t go to Dundee University like you had threatened to do – it was Sheffield Hallam University, but that was quite far enough!


The friends that you thought were your life during secondary school, that you were always going to be BFFs with? They’re still around, but y’know. Boys. Instead, you come to realise that actually, the person who you fought with regularly (your sister), is actually your in-built best friend, and she rocks. She will be forever your partner in crime. You’ll do all sort of things together – go to London to watch one of your favourite bands, organise a trip to Paris for Mum’s significant birthday, run together, bail each other out, cry on each other and laugh so hard together. You’ll need to get past that holiday in Cyprus first though.

Sister is amazing

On the thought of partners in crime, you know that blonde haired boy that recently knocked your pencil tin out of your hands while he was coming down the stairs, before declaring that he never wanted to see you again (I can’t remember what caused this vicious outburst, though I’m sure you can)? You married him. Sure, he went to a different school for secondary school, but eventually because of this thing called the internet which allows you to talk to people all over the world without actually using your voice, or hogging the telephone (I know – mind blown, you’ve only just got Encarta 95), and then this thing called Facebook (which is like a friend group on a big notice board on the internet), you get back in touch and eventually it’s “Stephanie and Matthew sitting in a tree…”. I won’t finish the rhyme for you. You like to remind him of this anecdote quite regularly.

Matt and Steph

There are some things I wish you had not done – you will suffer with spots quite badly, and the bad news is that they aren’t gone by the time you’re 30, but please don’t pick them. You’ll scar. I know you will. You’ll also develop some pretty naff coping mechanisms. One of them will be food, and you will be a fat person. But you won’t always be that way. Also, you know Top Cat? Yeah, you know, the horse that is too crazy to ride? She doesn’t grow old gracefully by the way, and you decide that it will be fun to ride her and help her owner out around the yard. Top Cat will break your fingers (not once, but twice – three fingers, two separate occasions) and also stand in your armpit and that will be the MOST painful bruise you’ll experience in living memory. Thankfully, aforementioned sister will catch Top Cat, help you turn her out, and then take you to hospital.


Lastly, know that Mum and Dad are right. Nothing ever turns out as badly as you think it will, even if it feels like the weight of the world is on your shoulders. At 30, know that you’re okay. No. You’re doing well.

Love every moment, even the ones you eventually cringe at.



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13 thoughts on “Dear childhood me – life’s little lessons – #BehindTheBlogger

  1. I really hope that you weren’t awake and physically sending this out at 5.07 this morning!

    I wonder if it would be a good idea if we could all go back into our past just once, to give our younger selves at list of things to watch out for? Probably not, some people would make too many changes and many of us wouldn’t ever be born!

    I’m glad that, on the whole, you’re life has been good. And all because two teenagers decided to go to Christchurch for a holiday one June 😉

    • Those teenagers didn’t turn out too bad either!! I definitely would like to go back and tell myself to stop eating and picking the spots. I don’t think that would have had a massive impact, unless I ended up turning into some sort of globetrotting supermodel… Yeah. 🙂

      How often have you known me to get up at 5am!? It was scheduled 🙂

  2. Love this!
    I think looking back, things always seemed much scarier than they actually ended up being. It just takes us a little while to realise we actually mould our life into how things are going to work out best for us.
    Also, Encarta 95! Haha, – the memories!

    • Haha! Thanks! You’re completely right, what feels like Armageddon (especially to a teenager) often becomes a very distant memory in the future. I loved Encarta 95, especially the bit about animals. Those were the days! 🙂

  3. This was a lovely read 🙂 I love the idea of this! And I laughed at the Encarta bit. Those were the days, eh! I’m soo glad I grew up in a world of no Facebook or Twitter – could you imagine?? MSN Messenger was about the most dynamic thing around and that still caused me social anxieties!
    I don’t think life ever turns out how we planned. I thought I had it all a couple of years ago, but then everything changed. It’s tough at times but I’m happy so that’s the main thing. Just gotta roll with the punches!

    • Thank you 🙂 Yes, I am glad I didn’t have Facebook or Twitter as a child, or even really a mobile phone. Aah MSN Messenger brings back memories! You’re totally right – I don’t think we can ever guarantee how life is going to pan out, and it is definitely best to just roll with it.

  4. What a lovely look back! I think you are so right, often at the time something seems huge, or un-changeable, but looking back you can see it in perspective.

  5. You sound so much like my daughter LOL She wanted it all by 30, well she got her husband in 2010 she was 28 (birthday 12/17/82 married 12/26/2010, and in 2012 at the age of 29 she miscarried twice and in July of 2014 at the age of 31, she had a precious little girl She’s content with her life now. Things could be better financially, but hey, her life didn’t go according to time lines either. You’ll have your child when you’re ready. I wish you the best of luck!

    • I don’t know why 30 seemed so appealing – maybe when we’re younger, 30 seems so far away but when you actually are 30, you realise you aren’t! I am glad to hear it has all come through for your daughter though.

  6. hehe, accepting that life rarely ever goes as planned has definitely made my life a lot stressful! I sucked at science too, but miraculously ended up making it to med school! 😛 And ahhh, picking at scars– I definitely have that problem too.

  7. Wonderful post! So much solid advice for any young person. I wish I had a partner in crime! I only have a brother who is 19 years younger than myself so we did not grow up together.
    Loved reading your post, followed you on Insta and gave lots of love.

    • Thank you Joely! I am very lucky with my sister, as there is only a little under two years between us though we have become closer as we have grown up I think. Thank you too for the insta love 🙂

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